Security....

Aja, so now its a crime to be friends with guys that have girlfriends... that's some bs. I kept wondering why on earth it was that pretty girls get crazy when their boyfriends get a wall post on facebook...why they make asses of themselves and send that message or friend request to the particular wall poster (which usually ends with an email sent by the other party to friends and friends making fun of the girlfriend and her foolishness). But it just hit me. Its not that these girls are insecure about the other female and the wall post, or the comment on the picture... its that the girlfriend has not been given the right amount of security to assure them that their relationship is going in the right direction, that it is in fact a solid companionship, and that the boyfriend is trust worthy enough that a simple something on FB or Myspace wont matter... and so this is where the root of all crazy girls begins (well some at least). Why do we as females need this security card from males? and even if we get it, is it really valid? Even when in love people still make mistakes and slip ups, hurting in a none intentional way their other half... and so, is security ever real? or is it something we pretend to give to each other in committed relationships to avoid the many arguments and unnecessary drama? I've never been intimidated by another female, but I have been insecure because of the laid back nature a man might take as his approach to "us". I've learned from those situations, and now the minute I feel like I'm second thinking whether or not I can randomly call him; or if I can't ask him to hang out because he might think I'm a feen as supposed to just being genuinely interested and enjoying his company--- its the minute I put the brakes on the "us" and go back to just me. At the risk of missing out on a great opportunity with a guy, I choose my sanity. I'm 23, no longer in h.s. with a college degree and a prospering future ahead of me, I refuse to make time for someone who makes me doubt the amount of comfort I can have in the "us" area... NEGATIVE. It can easily fall into an over analyzing pattern that frankly takes too much time and effort... Entonces, my advice is either talk about your insecurities or move forward with "you", eventually you will find an "us" that doesn't need the uttering of that word, because it will simply be felt when you're laying in bed at night... MisUnderstood <3>