End one chapter...

Sometimes you have to let go and let the universe catch you.

For men: How to not fk up...

Here are a list of things that men should NOT do if they want to keep a woman who is amazing...

• Don't act like your time is more important than hers, everyone has sht to do
• Don't do one thing at the start of a relationship and get lazy 3 months into it, if that is not you from the start then don't do it
• Don't get salty when something doesn't go your way and try to be indifferent, it comes off as you being an idiot and frankly it will backfire 9 out of 10 times
• Don't fk up multiple times (and you know how you fk up) and then when she ends things you want to hit her off with a text on how you miss her or if she misses you, a text is the bare minimum and therefor makes you a lazy mofo. Put in work if you want her.
• Don't ignore a text/call for days and then act like you didn't, again you look like an ahole
• If she communicates to you something that bothers her or that affects the relationship, acknowledge it and work on it, if you don't it makes you look like a man who does not listen nor cares
• Look up, memorize, remember and practice: RECIPROCATION

Just my 2 cents for the days as men who are making simple minded ahole mistakes seem to be a recurring theme this week.

XO

FanStar

ps- this only applies to men who have already established a relationship with the female, if she has never given you the time of day then find another one...

Waiting to Exhale

I'm going to pick up a copy of this novel, something keeps calling me to it... maybe it's the fact that they announced a sequel to the movie, or maybe it's because the title resonates with me so much...

Living in a new place comes with a lot of ups and downs. This move has affected me emotionally and mentally. I have days where I feel so happy I made this move, and others that make me wonder just exactly what was I thinking... but that's part of every major choice we make in life.

College, careers, love...

Everyday I wake up and I pray, and I pray every night too. Everyday I think of what I want out of life, and how I can maintain my happy healthy state of mind, body and soul.

I think that is the most important lesson I'm learning out here in LA, that maintaining that happy state is important. Whether it's at work, in your home, when you're sharing yourself with someone or simply when you're by yourself.

After all, there is only one of you and you have to deal with you for the rest of your life.

XO

Learning everyday

Today marks 5 years of being part of my sorority. I can't believe its been 5 years. I remember when I began my process, when I got my gear, the days I went above ground and was in Washington Heights giving greetings as people passed by and wondered what the fk was going on... and most of all I remember crossing and how amazing it felt to know I had accomplished something that many try and don't finish.

The truth is pledging taught me a lot, how to deal with difficult people, the meaning of solidarity, conditioning and discipline... I learned so much during those months, and I wouldn't change it for anything. It molded me in so many wonderful ways.

For that I'm thankful.

Happy 5 years to all my line sisters who earned their letters on this beautiful day!

I made it to a Month!

I can't believe its been a month since I've moved to LA! I am impressed with myself.

What can I say about LA? I live in Hollywood, so I live in what would be midtown in NYC. The main things are easily accessible to me through a walk or the metro-- don't get crazy and think its like the MTA. The trains here come every 10 minutes and don't take you to every corner of the land. However, I must say that the characters on the train out here are very entertaining. I've seen some crazy/funny things on my way to work... and have also heard some funny stories. Like a guy coming up to my co-worker, standing in front of her face and belting out "Imma buy you a drank" by T-pain. Could you imagine? She said it much funnier than this, so I am not giving it much justice.

I've seen the "I'm so Hollywood" people who have no reason to think so highly of themselves but do, and I have also had the chance to meet the sweet down to earth types who are just enjoying the sunny days. Being from NYC def helps me see right through the facade people wear like costumes out here... every day... But it's cool, to each their own right?

Work has been challenging but wonderful. I am learning so much more than I thought I would. It's nice to know I can bring much more to the table in my career for the future...goals, goals, goals...

My favorite part of this move (aside from a walk in closet) has been bonding with my roomie Nicole. At the moment we don't have a TV or Internet (reason why I have not blogged) and it has "forced" us to talk. HAHA. Not to say we are anti-social to each other, but more that we have used that to get to know each other better. I feel blessed to have someone who is as chill (funny, crazy and goofy) as I am with a good heart for a roomie... Because this could have easily gone down hill super fast.

Cali guys have 0 swag haha, well so far! Sorry Cali! We'll see though, I just started to explore... so stay tuned because I'm sure I'll have some funny stories to share.

To all those who show me love and send their support, thank you. It doesn't go unnoticed.

I encourage everyone to Dream Big, taking risks are not easy but they at least allow you to grow as a person... and growing is the most important part of life.

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Welcome to the Land where sht gets interesting

It has been an interesting past three days in Los Angeles... I have experienced two extremes, and I am ready to stick to one... To put it in NYC terms I went from hanging in Soho to hanging in the projects in red hook... Bad. BUT! Funny! You always have to laugh at the things that come your way.

I am enjoying LA thus far, but I can't say I am in love with just 24 hours... I don't believe in love at first sight (shocker). The weather is def gorgeous, and as a person who has never worn shades (other than for fun)-- I will be buying a pair rather soon.

I already felt culture shock at its finest but I am embracing it... Cali has its own vibe and swag going on and I'm ready to consume it... without losing sight of my NYC'ness...

People are extremely nice, I've had random conversations with a bunch of individuals and none tried to get money from me nor were they trying to get my number... And some were white... lol Yea, I was a little shocked. No offense to my white people out there. Just never experienced that in midtown on a Thursday at 3 pm.

I am excited for the weekend, the Grammy's are here and I hope I get to sneak into a party! hehe. Just a fly on the wall...

Stay tuned much more to come...

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dang

sometimes forgetting is a lot harder than I think.