So amazing...

How is it that guys who are raised by women and have sisters and a strong mother treat women with such little respect. I must have broken a mirror or something because 80% of the guys that I have met since 2007 have fallen into this category. Really, just amazing. And then guys complain about women who are high maintenance and bitchy, mean while they can't appreciate someone who is laid back and considerate... who understands? haha not me. Not that I care too much bc I would rather be dolo and happy than with a guy that makes me feel insignificant. I'm mentioning it bc it seems to be the current epidemic with a lot of my girlfriends. But again, it is all a process of elimination... if its not A,B,C, or D.. it might just be the secret answer _________.


I went on a recent date with a guy in his 30's and he sparked up the sex conversation. He said that guys will always jump to this subject if the girl allows him to. Okay true. Then he went to say that most guys will just be looking for that. I said, Okay. I am okay if that's what the guy wants. If that makes him happy, then GREAT. But this is the wrong tree to bark up on. Why is sex such a big deal when you are just getting to know someone? Are we not in a period of time where people catch all sorts of things for being promiscuous? Damn I must be in a dark room trying to light a match. What I also mentioned was that this dating thing would be much easier if the guy just stated what he was ultimately looking for from the beginning, then we can cut all the awkward moments, first conversations and pretending. The guy could go on his conquest like a true Casanova and those of us looking for substance can do just that... Maybe I just think of things way too simplistic... hmmm.


Men, they come and go like seasons.

Aprende y pon atencion.

Fan-Skittle

Breath...Run...Smell...Feel

I went running today around my neighborhood, I had not done that in a very long time... The summer breeze was absolutely incredible. It is way better than the tredmill. I continued my workout at home, and it was blazing hip hop and rnb (ha! corny). Anywho, I have lost 8 pounds and I am so friggin happy. Slowly but surely. 50 more days until Costa Rica!! ahhy! Can't wait.

My weekend was dope! Full of surprises, I swear a good night out with the girls and all the negative goes away. I had some me time and enjoyed Soho- the people and the vibe- had a great night out! Not to mention some sun bathing @ my sis's rooftop.

I couldn't be happier. Live your life to the fullest.

<3

Summer 09 Sizzle....

Fri-dizzie 2

Thank goodies for the Mr. Curiel! (luv juice) Saved my Friday and accompanied me out and about on this gorgeous day we had. We had some dope Japanese food by Ave A (the place had a disco ball and skateboards on the wall), amazing cali rolls! yum. Dope.

Of course I had to show him one of my fav spots --Mr. De La Vega's Museum by St. Mark's place... Dope as always just going in there I get a burst of positive energy (needed that 2nd wind after walking from 14th)...

We ended our evening at this spot in BK that was show-casing some stuff from Poster Boy the train artist that cuts up posters at stops and turns them into political/socially aware thoughts... DOPE! A group of random people of course, free beer (I did not drink) and some cool random stuff on this huge white wall that allowed stragers to put together their own random thoughts with random words (using Velcro ya-dig)... :

"Can you really trust (and there was a figure stick drawing of a woman next to it)?" "Create porno you could trust" "He is in is happy place (a man in his underwear here)"

Those were a few of the things that were being put together... haha, people and their thoughts. Over all a dope evening, too bad Mr.Curiel is like a brother other wise I would have locked him down (haha mya anyone?)...

Other random fri-dizzie 2 moments:
-Me walking into the turnstile at work because I was thinking of something else and having the guard laugh really hard (I joined).
-Me noticing a 6 foot skinny black man in rolled up jeans and 5 inch platform stripper heels walking down the street.
-A man with a boom box in BK rapping to Lil'Kim ( I guess in BK anything flies lol)

Ah... yes, random and lovely. Just like I like it.
Ez.Breezy. Fan-Shizzzzzzzzie.

Word...

I'm super paranoid and it is all because of a past experience... great I feel a little Damaged, and it sucks that you remind me of a guy that I once knew... see his face whenever I look at you. I know, I know, he shouldn't be paying for His Mistakes...ahh life.

The lady at the caf. refuses to speak to me in spanish, even though she has the thickest accent and she speaks to EVERYONE ELSE in spanish. Lets not forget to add she is super snotty. Ah yes, caf ladies run the world.

Its gorgeous out and I am going to have fun, solita pero bien acompañada.

=)
Viviendo.

Fan-Star

My first....

This was one interesting weekend... here we go, let me share the crazy-ness.

On Saturday before meeting up with my gal pals I went to cash my check at a local spot (direct deposit blah blah I know) anywho, the guy who takes care of me looked really familiar. I spark up a conversation, and at first he was hesitant to answer all my random questions because after all to him at this moment I was a stranger... and well...

When I was 14 I had returned to Santo Domingo for the 2nd summer in a row in the hopes to having some fun and enjoying myself away from NYC. It was the summer before I entered H.S. and I was starting to understand what being a female was all about. I had met a guy last summer who was older than me and was the cute good boy from the block... but he didn't pay me much mind.... but this year I was 14, and it was going to be different (haha)...anywho the summer went by and after coming back to nyc I lost touch with him. But this was the summer that catapulted me into what the world of boys was... and here we are today.


So the guy who is cashing my check... turns out to be my first boyfriend. YES. I haven't seen him in 9 years! could you believe that? I sure cant. He was baffled, he looked at me like I was crazy and then it registered. This was a great gift. I always wondered what happened to the first boy I kissed! ha.

I swear my life is one big NY Times best selling book waiting to happen... lol or maybe just one great story to tell to those who want to listen. But seriously, I seem to be meeting all sorts of random people specially men... at least me and my girlfriends get a kick out of it... thank god for Abel! (love ju man).

Scattered..

Last Wed April 15, I celebrated my 3rd year as a sister of La Hermandad de Sigma Iota Alpha Inc. I was so happy. haha. It made me think of all the things that have happened over the past three years because I am in this sorority and of the friendships I have acquired as well. This organization has made an incredible impact in my life and in a positive way. I went to a leadership banquet the day after @ CWpost and my sisters from that school received an award and I was extremely proud that they were getting recognized for their professionalism and dedication to their community. See, what they do and don't do becomes a reflection of the whole organization. Fan-man.

Dating...

I just had a conversation with my mother about guys that are cheap. Okay here is my take on it. On the first date the guy should always pay. End of story. You are courting the female, not the other way around. You should open every door and walk on the outside of the street. Call me old fashioned, call me close minded... but as I said before to each its own... if you like girls with green eyes then don't date the one with browns.

As my mother just told me, if the guy is not like this the first time. He will never be like this in the future. I am by no means a gold digger, my ex's can vouch for me on the dinners, movies, materialistic things I payed for--- and no I am not keeping tabs, I do it because I like to please my partner and make them feel special. But the first date is very important.

I don't like cheap people. I myself I'm not cheap at all. which is why I surround myself with a group of females that are humble and share the little that they have. I was raised with three older cousins and we all swapped jeans, sneakers shirts. If we didn't have money to go out (aka the pool on 99 street) we would make key chains out of lanyard and sold them door to door (I'm a hustla baby).... this is how I was raised.

My point is, if the girl has to go the extra mile to look great and make you feel like you are walking with a dime piece then make the effort. What kills me are the guys I've gone on dates with, that are rude and cheap and want a kiss. This is just some sht. I can't help but laugh. I guess a man who is super tight with his wallet reminds me of my father and it scares me to end up with a man who will be the same with his children...No, I don't mean wine and dine either( gotta make this clear) I know there is a recession and believe it or not a peanut butter samich with a small juicy juice @ a park would def be a great first date.

Be thoughtful. Its not that hard.

Jeez.Luis.

Yari <3 click there for my fav new artist...

hahahah

I had to look through a mess of magazines today and this nice ad came across my eyes... Isn't this just wonderful? It is now the picture on my desktop...hahaha.
Lets see, My perfect guy:
Would look like Tyson Beckford, the charm and swagger of Common, he would express himself eloquently like Obama, the humor of Will Smith, and the romantic side he would have to copy it from Ne-yo.

Hmm Black men make me happy. buahha.

Okay my cousin is officially off the wall. This girl calls me from VA to tell me some guy called her house by mistake and he was from NYC so she sparks up a conversation with him. Then she gets the bright idea that I should go meet him because he sounds nice. IS SHE CRAZY? lmao I swear she is in a category of her own... I am still laughing. I had to hang up.

What is up with guys saying some reckless sexual sht when no one has given them a reason to? hmmm makes you wonder if men are watching too much Sex n the City. A girl can't help but laugh... sometimes, you just have to laugh.

Ahy mi vida.

Fan-Star

Blog #100!!

This is my 100th blog! That is bonkers. Makes ma feel accomplished haha (yes I'm a dork!). I actually sat and read a lot of my blogs the other night (ah the single life) and I have said some really good stuff to you people out there that come across my written thoughts... and I'm glad that after a year of blogging I still stand by all the things I have said... even if some of it was written in the heat of the moment or during the coldest nights. A lot of the stuff I've written has to do with relationships, and well by no means I'm I an expert. One day I'll get it right though. I just hope the blogs I do write about romance/guys/relationships don't make it seem as if that is all I think about. But, when things happen I like to share (what I allow myself to share that is). I had a great weekend! and I needed it. I work hard, so once in a while its great to play hard... besides like I told a friend the other night, you need to enjoy it while you can... right? I got to meet a really dope dude, who def made my night (if you can make me laugh like a 5 year old child its a wrap). I enjoyed a night of dancing with two of my favorite sisters, and I wont complain about the extra attention from the fellas. The ego needed a boost (get get get it). As far as Easter goes -- I don't do church, or the bible... so I went to the gym with the only Dominican man worth my time (Mr. Curiel you are the fried cheese to my mangu haha) and then to dinner (way to keep the calories off). Again the day ended with laughter... if there is one thing I want to always accomplish at the end of my day is to fall asleep knowing I smiled a couple of times throughout the day. Needless to say my legs are so shot from working out, I look like I need crutches... womp.

On some random news: It must have been NyC let out the crazies day because on the train home some guy decided to be super loud and say obscene stuff and then proceeded to launch himself at this short Asian girl standing in front of me... WTF? Then I'm downstairs waiting for mami with her groceries and some random drunken man was talking so much smack. I def feel bad for the less fortunate but! the crazies...yea.
Obama is going to make it easier for people of Cuban descent to visit their family in Cuba. I wanna go too!

I know the summer is coming, let the sunshine in! And here's to 100 more entries... estoy que pico como el sol y tan encalamerada como un dulce de leche.

MsUnderstood

Blown away...

I got my cards read... and I was blown away... This lady was so on point, lets see if all that she says about my future is true... Crazy. Crazy. But oh So Good... Oh life.

Yo some advice for kats out there... If you're trynna see a girl and you hit her up don't do the following if you are a club promoter who gets to comp people: Hey wanna hang out tonight?... where at?...Club ______ I'm promoting..--- Okay, How much is the cover (this is a trick question fellas)... Idk it depends at what time you come.

WRONG
ANSWER

And thats where you end up with no date.

Estupid.

Fan-moose

Catch up...

So I have been super focused on work and now that I am getting used to the routine I started to turn back to the things that I enjoy. I started going to the gym again! woot woot. Its a love hate relationship between him and I. I took a high intensity cardio kick boxing class and I kept up! I def was sweating out my ... but it was amazing afterwards. There is nothing like running though... so like Nike- Just Do it.

I got to hang out with some dope people yesterday for Happy hour which turned into super happy hour with all the shenanigans that were going on. I absolutely love surrounding myself with positive people that enjoy joking and making others smile... I also got to meet some new awesome people that kept up with the punches, or rather I should say, I kept up with their punches.

Today I was sent to the post office and I got super lost for like 30 minutes. Roc-a-fella is HUGE. Don't be fooled (haha).

Lets see what the weekend brings, so much to do before the week starts up again!

A-la-SWING.

Fan-sheezi

Thoughts...

Are you a player even if you are very open about the fact that you are dating multiple people? Or even if you're not dating multiple people, but you're just that type of person?... Now, how about if you're the female? Is it bad that you're in your twenties and you have never really had a serious relationship? Have you ever been in a crowded room and felt alone? ... hmmm Just some random questions circling my mind (once again this can be blamed on me listening to Musiq and Mario).

Being involved with someone romantically is a battle for me...I am simultaneously okay with being single and just hanging out with my girlfriends, and being annoyed at the fact that I don't have one guy that adds on to my happiness (notice the word ADD, because as I have always felt no one can make you complete). I don't know maybe I'm just over thinking things at the moment... but I know that men and women alike think of the pros and cons of getting involved with someone. Maybe I am too jaded, but then again isn't it fair to be cautious when you've dealt with jerks? Isn't it fair to also throw caution to the wind and go for the prize even if you might not get the gold medal?... are you seeing how I sound conflicted... when I start to think of this I stop myself because I end up going on an internal rant that sounds a lot like the above mentioned... Don't mind me, I know time tells it all.

Playing it on & on: Alicia Keys- Feelin' U, Feelin' me Jaz-zy. Sazzy... FanTastic

This...

Weather ... Sucks... Why is it raining? Can't it rain at the wee hours of the morning when no one is out and we are all sleeping? Darn It. so I go to lunch here at work (first time I eat in the caf) and I felt socially awkward. I felt like I was once again a 6th grader with the really ugly big glasses that are now in style (go figure I was years ahead of the game/ not surprised haha). So everyone has their own click, I quickly grabbed a chicken salad samich and ran back to my sanctuary of a desk... Ah peace. =)

And the worst movie is...

So after work I met my friend for this movie viewing ... first it was a journey to get to the East side (a cab driver actually told me I can't go East just South... really?) Well okay. The movie was funny, but the character development, plot, wardrobe, sequence of events, and editing pretty much sucked. I realized that after taking those two film classes at Marist I am really critical of the movies I see... crazy huh?

Bueno... Back to work! Sorry if my blogs haven't been so entertaining, I'll try to do something wild this weekend and share...

=) until then Smile.